Hot Girl Summer, But Make It Healing: 5 Ways to Make This Your Most Authentic Season Yet

Every summer, social media floods with #HotGirlSummer posts—vacay pics, bold outfits, and ‘main character energy.’ And while there’s nothing wrong with feeling yourself, what if your version of a hot girl summer looked more like healing, honoring your needs, and stepping into your real self–even if that means staying in, going slow, or saying no?

This summer, what if you had a healing hot girl summer? One centered on self-kindness, emotional safety, and authentic joy. Confidence isn’t about doing more–it’s about being true to yourself. So let me fill you in on some self-care summer tips that will help you to have your most authentic summer ever.

1. Say No More Often (without the guilt)

Boundaries are a critical act of self-respect. Practice saying no with kindness, but remember that “no” is a full sentence. 

When someone invites you to do something, don't be afraid to say, “Let me check my calendar and I’ll let you know.” Then you can take that time to check in with your energy before agreeing to any plans.

2. Choose Rest Over Hustle

Productivity does not define your worth. And constantly running from one summer activity to another is going to drain you.

Create 2-3 simple rituals for yourself that will help you to rest and reset. You might want to try going on sunset walks, having quiet morning tea time, or no-phone weekends. Find simple habits that will help you to keep yourself in the right mindset.

3. Wear What Makes You Feel Free

Your style is your self-expression—but only if it’s about you, not the algorithm. Just because a piece of clothing is trending and “everyone” is wearing it, doesn’t mean you need to.

This summer, ditch any “rules” that people give about what is and isn’t “flattering.” Try an outfit that makes you feel authentic and alive, not just liked. Thrifting with a friend might be a fun way to dive into this practice.

4. Let Yourself Take Up Space (Emotionally + Physically)

Authenticity means showing up fully. This includes those big messy feelings. Don’t be afraid to let your friends know if you need some extra support or space.

Allow yourself to be seen! Ask yourself, “What parts of me am I still shrinking to fit in?”

5. Celebrate the Little Wins Loudly

Summer is the perfect time to lean into joy and gratitude without needing a “reason.” Start a scrapbook or “Summer Brag Book” where you can write down small wins daily or weekly.

A good scrapbook would be lost without fun stickers and photos, so be sure to add those in too. Pictures can be a great way to remember those little wins, even if you don’t get a chance to write the words.

Hot Girl Summer doesn’t have to be loud, flashy, or filtered. It can be soft. Honest. Intentional. Healing. Let this be the season you come home to yourself–your pace, your vision, your joy.