The Healing Powers of Self-Compassion: Unlocking Emotional Well-Being and Mindset Transformation
Let’s Talk
I want to have a heart-to-heart conversation and talk about self-compassion. I know it’s not always easy to do, but it might surprise you to know that it has healing powers.
Not only can self-compassion be healing, but it also impacts your emotional well-being. Let’s start with a clear definition.
Defining Self-Compassion
Dr. Kristen Neff, author of Fierce Self-Compassion and professor in the psychology department at The University of Texas at Austin with a research interest in self-compassion describes self-compassion as, “turning compassion inward.” Dr. Neff says it's being kind and patient with yourself instead of harsh and cruel when you make a mistake.
Many people find it easier to extend compassion to others than themselves. They offer grace to others when they make mistakes but mercilessly criticize themselves when they slip up.
It’s important to learn how to extend the same grace you give to others to yourself. Being more self-compassionate will elevate your emotional well-being.
Ask Yourself These Two Questions
Additionally, not giving yourself grace and mercy can have a harsh impact on your mindset. One of my favorite ways to assess whether I am being over-critical of myself is to ask myself two questions.
Would I let someone say that to me?
If my friend were in the same situation, would I say that unkind thing to them?
If the answer is “no” to either one of those questions, then you are being too hard on yourself and not practicing self-compassion. It’s important to ask yourself these questions often to get yourself in the right mindset for change.
Two Ideas for Greater Self-Love
With all the garbage on the internet and social media, you don’t need to add more to your mental load. When you find yourself being critical and in need of more self-love, here are two ideas.
Choose a Powerful Affirmation
Create an affirmation that will help boost your confidence. Tell yourself “I am strong”, “I am powerful”, “I am kind”, or “I am smart”. Create an affirmation that resonates with you. Look at yourself in the mirror as you say the words, say it to yourself throughout your day, or as you’re driving to do errands and after your brain hears it enough, it will start to believe it.
Celebrate Small Wins
Celebrate every victory no matter the size or type to boost your confidence and how you perceive yourself. Celebrate in ways that feel good to you.
Practice Self-Compassion
By practicing self-compassion, you can increase your emotional well-being and reframe your mindset. If you need additional help, contact a life coach like me, and we can work together to help set up the best plan for you.